wisdom for parenting

The Lord is teaching me a valuable lesson on wisdom in my parenting.

Psalm 34:11 says "Come, my children, listen to me, I will teach you the fear of the Lord".

I learned the word "come" is an imperative, a verb calling to action.  When it's used in the Word, it's usually followed by some kind of instruction.  In this verse, it's followed by the instruction to listen and be taught the fear of the Lord.

This struck me powerfully. 

Jaden is very, very honest and calls it like it is, whatever "it" may be.  Here's an example:
We were in the grocery store yesterday, and he commented very loudly about the cashier.  "MOMMY!  DAT MAN WIHT DERE HAS A FAT TUMMY!"  I was absolutely mortified!  I'm pretty sure my face turned red.  I finished checking out and we were headed to the car.  The whole time we're walking, I was asking myself how I should discipline this, if it even merited discipline.

The scenarios with Jaden in the past few weeks have been very similar to this story.

I want to know the difference between punishing my child because he embarassed me, and punishing my child because his action/words/thoughts are wrong and go against scripture. 
So I think the Holy Spirit is stirring these questions in my heart.  Am I teaching Jaden to fear the Lord, and walk with Him?  Or am I teaching Jaden to fear me, and my opinions, and what others' opinion is of me?  Am I teaching Jaden to put the Lord above all else, or am I teaching him to follow what our culture dictates?

You can pray for me, friends.  Pray that I learn and remember this lesson.  Pray that I discipline Jaden's heart issues and not the outward actions.  Pray that Lord continues to shape and mold my heart, and become the person He wants me to be.